Arab Women #20: Playing Victims


Your average Arab woman is always the victim !

There’s always an evil guy who had broken her heart ! While this hypothetical guy might be fiction, you’re forced to acknowledge the undebatable fact that she is a victim. How dare you not to sympathize with her heart breaking fiction story ??? Even if you see 100 people dying every day on TV in your home country…you’re still forced to show sympathy to her mystical perpetual sadness !

So if your Arab woman was in a relationship before, it’s always the man’s the fault. She assumes that it’s her right to pick up the phone, call the guy, and yell at him. It’s her given right ! Why, of course, “all girls do that” , is her ready counter argument. Even if she realizes that she wasn’t the right girl for that guy, it’s still assumed that the guy was a player who broke her heart. Bo-friggin-hoo ????

No matter how hard the guy tries, he’s always wrong. He’s always missing one crucial “right” of hers. She forgets that a typical Arab man is expected to be the Jesus of the relationship: financially, emotionally, physically, and mentally. 

It’s a very entertaining idea to her to throw herself in the arms of “feminism”, even if those ideas aren’t remotely related to our society, still, it’s a very nice chance to play victim !

Disturbing pictures on facebook of girls crying & ridiculously sad songs over heart breaking is a must ! Even if she has the most loving husband and the most comfortable & cozy life…she has to be the victim and complain endlessly about how unfair Arab men are !

And you wonder why good guys feel very frustrated ? Because they’re blamed anyway. It’s not appreciation that we seek, it’s just the constant complaining is what we’re trying to avoid !

Somebody needs a grip on reality…a comparison between relationships in the Arab world and other societies can spare us a lot of drama.


8 Responses to Arab Women #20: Playing Victims

  1. BellaC says:

    Misogyny at its best in this blog.
    I wonder what would happen if Arab women decided to not date you, anymore.

  2. h3rm1ny3w says:

    It’s absolutely irrelevant to me, because I stopped dating them long ago 😉

    I’d rather call it a “grip on reality”, not misogyny. But your opinion is respected anyway.

  3. Abu Ali says:

    This is not misogyny. Just because he writes about what he feels is a common trait among a certain group of females does not make it misogyny. Yet, I do disagree with his interpretation of this particular characteristic of Arab women.

  4. abu alrassam says:

    How is this misogyny? I think this is a nice way to provide a counter balance to the incessant wave of articles in which authors stipulate that Arab women are sad and perpetual victims of a so called patriarchal society.

  5. El guia says:

    I’m not going to say if this is misogyny or not, i prefer take from the point of view of “fun”, so not take it seriously and deep, just taking the popular culture. As i don’t see too much comments about arab women here, just the post of the author. As always i make comparision with the spanish people, here women also like it, very very much, it is common make the man feel guilty of everything, and here men also tend to feel guilty easily, even when they did good. Is this because women blame us for everything? or just because men tend to blame themselves before?

  6. touta says:

    what are you talking about here?

    I love your posts, but this one is slightly wrong.

    We all know that for arab women, there has *never* *ever* been any previous relationship, or heartbreak.

    You’re always the first


  7. Concerned citizen says:

    Narrated By Ibn ‘Abbas: The Prophet said: “I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful.” It was asked, “Do they disbelieve in Allah?” (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, “They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, ‘I have never received any good from you.”

  8. Rann says:

    We, women listen to our hearts a lot, and the moment we start believing we get screwed. So eventually we are the one to be blamed for being to sensitive and emotional.
    We don’t cry to show that we are the victims, we cry because we can’t hold it inside us. Men don’t understand, because they live in this buble and thinking they’re doing everything right.

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